Information on backup plans when planning a wedding

I could always tell how organized I am and how I go out according to plan. How I think about everything, how I take care to be prepared and shave every little detail and how I never hit my head, because I took care to measure the «threshold» ten times, to make a backup plan and to adore which, in all my experience as a Wedding Planner, has never happened to me.

It’s not. I also don’t have a backup plan and, before you get scared and run away with the contracts stipulated for next year or before closing the page with the thought of not contacting me, be patient and read me until the end. Because I’ll explain to you how it is with the plan and with BAccept the plan and with «C«The plan, down to the last letter of the alphabet. In the mouth it is easy to say: I have a backup plan for everything, I don’t get bad, because I plan everything carefully. I want to tell you about the things for which you have no way to prepare. When you organize a wedding, count on the fact that the wedding day will not be the end of the world, we will not find the church gates closed and no tragedy will happen.

The greatest asset of a Wedding Planner must be good humor. When brides are tired of so much planning, when suppliers have to be exchanged, when one of them announces to you one evening before the wedding that she will not come personally and that she is sending someone else in her place (I suffered live and it is one of the most nasal moments one can experience), when you feel that things take a different turn compared to what you need to be planned. Even though it’s not always easy, I think I’m doing pretty well. When I panic, the most you’ll notice is that I don’t smile or look a bit serious. That’s all. I don’t shake hands, I don’t shout.

And you, when you have a Wedding Planner at the wedding, are at least facilitated by the fact that if something extraordinarily goes wrong, you have someone to shout at, who to blame and who to send to repair the damage, even when it cannot be repaired.

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So if things don’t go the way I planned, I may not have a backup plan. However, I have some experience that I don’t break it to healthy people and I’ll see what to do. Ad hoc, at moment zero, it must be a solution. And here, once again, I am not referring to situations that arise, natural disasters, anger of the gods or other things that I cannot control. I mean the situation where the cake breaks in two right from the bakery (ok, admit that no one orders two wedding cakes, just one, yeah, yeah?) or the one where the bride dies during/after/before the bridal dance, or the one where a major supplier (say the DJ) details.

So, there is no backup plan. In fact, in general, I don’t believe in the backup plan. The only one I can seriously consider is the one with a covered seat, in case of rain. That’s all. Otherwise tell me what we do if the food isn’t good, if the waiters don’t do the job they’re paid to do or if the fruit stand looks sad and dull. I want to know what backup plans you think I could prepare, so that I don’t double or triple the budget, which is never some kind of limit.

Finally I will tell you a little anecdote. I thought about whether to tell you or not, because it might seem ridiculous. But it isn’t. Something happened to me at a wedding we hosted and I managed to skip the first 15 minutes, even when the brides and first guests arrived. In short, since I didn’t have the sense of humor to take a photo, I have to tell you and take my word for it that I woke up with my (new) pants in the most inappropriate place. Of course I had to run, get them black and sew them up. I didn’t have any other pairs on hand. I was sorry, but I had nothing to do, because I had no way of having a backup plan for a situation like this. And the reason I share this detail is purely demonstrative. There are times when you have to do things, assume them and move on or look for the best solution at the moment. Because I, Wedding Planner, am nothing more than a man, from whom, in general, everyone has non-enemy expectations when I wear my «Wedding Planner» costume, but only one pair of pants I have on. And do your best to resist! If not, I’ll definitely have a spare pair next time, but I don’t know what plan «C» I might find more appropriate…