What does a Wedding Planner do?

We already hear more and more often about wedding planners, what they do and what they do. More recently, all event agencies have also included the «planner». You may find some companies that otherwise offer audio or photo-video services. And the photos are planners, in a way, but at least I understand where the idea comes from. In any more than ladies ballroom or restaurant you will find services with «Wedding Planner» included, so yes, we can say, definitively, that the world has gotten used to the title and the idea that there is someone who tells their planners or organizers, or consultants and who does some homework and see, so the wedding is organized.

We have largely clarified what a Wedding Planner does: recommend services, propose suitable suppliers, lend a hand, launch an idea on a theme, take care of the Sacred Program of the Wedding Day and make sure «in some way» to do good for the brides and guests. I say above all, because many couples are not fully aware of the duties of the man they pay to organize their wedding. And since, in most cases, they will be led to believe that the wedding planner is Zana Maseluta, with an infinite arsenal of magic wands and a few kilos of fairy dust, today I would like to tell you a little about What a Wedding Planner doesn’t do. Obviously I can’t speak for everyone, so I will strictly refer to what I don’t do, as your wedding planner.

Photo credit: Paul Boldut Photography

1. I do not contradict you in the decisions you make. If you think something is good, I will believe it is good for you (so to speak, generically, for your marriage). I don’t know you well enough to impose my opinions, tastes, ideas or perspectives. However, when I recommend, let’s say, 4 photographers, I don’t hide a trap from you, it’s not one of those that I would, in the depths of my soul, not choose. I can’t even contradict you, even if you want peacock feathers and green flowers with pink drops. I assume that from the beginning you know best what you want, that you know yourself. Please let me know, why

2. I don’t guess thoughts. I happen to guess tastes (let’s say I associate them with the way you talk, dress, dress, etc.). I happen to anticipate some expectations. But I don’t imagine the thoughts. Therefore, if you want something and I have not mentioned it, there is a huge chance that I will not see 1% of what you have transmitted to me «telepathically». For me, communication (verbal and written, but above all written) is fundamental. Without it, I have no way to unfold in any direction and

3. I don’t make decisions for you. Yes, I am a responsible person and I take everything I do. I can also take the initiative when appropriate (say, in case of emergency). Otherwise I prefer to call you, write you an email or a text message or call you on your landline, just to be sure of doing so How do you want it?. Because of this How do you want it? I’m paid. However, this is why you hire me to organize your wedding

4. I do not join, carve, vary or build. I mean, I don’t do things with my hands if it involves muscles and brute strength or skills that I don’t have. If the wedding you dream of requires a particular setup, you need an event designer (plus one or more common ones, because this designer does not participate, I assure you) and I can recommend some of them. Sure, I can place flowers on the table, put similar cards in their place, set up a reception table or dessert corner, cut all kinds of paper objects, but I can’t build scaffolding, tropical forests or ocean waves for your wedding.

5. I am not acting as an «attorney» for any party. My interest is that the wedding goes as I have planned and that you are a happy bride. But I won’t fight with my mother, my mother-in-law, or my maid of honor to please you. I know that when planning a wedding, with the emphasis on the last month, week or day, discussions can occur within the family, with various friends or even within the couple. I will always be by your side, I am your ally in organizing your wedding. Your colors will be mine, even your favorite flowers, your wedding concept will be my dearest. But that doesn’t mean I can practically “repair” family relationships or solve problems that may go beyond the scope of wedding planning. In the same order of ideas,

6. I am not a babysitter for your wedding vendors. Suppose you choose to work with professionals, yes? And I firmly believe that the professional is best fulfilled when he does what he knows best, without slamming it with one or the other. If something doesn’t go according to plan, you can rest assured that I’ll be the first to notice (and will do everything I can to fix the problem, if there’s anything I can do). But I don’t foresee disaster or bad luck. A wedding is a party, not a time bomb 🙂 However,

7. I won’t have fun at your wedding 🙂 If you choose to be present at the wedding and coordinate everything from on site, I will be there working. You don’t have to come and ask me if I’m feeling good, ask me to dance or bring me a glass of champagne. Like the photographer, the djul, even the head nurse or the members of the guest band delight the guests, they are focused on doing my job as best as possible. If you can ignore me completely, it means you feel good and there are no problems. I prefer to deal with guests, pay attention to them and dance. Because you are the engine of the party, you set the tone and create the atmosphere! What do I wish you, dear!

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